YOU KEEP MAKING MISTAKES!

I’m a big believer in following your instincts. Listen to our inner voice, and following what some might call our intuition is something many of us value highly.

Often we value it above logic and reason.
Intuition is that quiet voice that whispers the answers in your ear when faced with a difficult decision, just as you’ve given up hope of coming to any conclusion at all.
If reason fails, go with your gut!

We’ve all done it in the past, and we might attribute some of our best life choices to this particular selection method. How many times have we taken a punt on something that seemed crazy just because we had ‘a feeling’?
Even the most logical and rational ones amongst us, if we’re honest with ourselves, might grudgingly be forced to admit that many of the biggest decisions in our lives were based on a highly dubious stream of reasoning that ultimately boiled down to a hunch. Huge life choices get made thanks to an intangible visceral response to some imponderable aspect of the decision making process that we couldn’t call scientific, logical. or at times even rational.

So why do we do this? What exactly are we putting our trust in?

Is it our inner voice? Is it our guardian angel? Is it perhaps the universe?

Well in truth the most scientific or reasonable explanation we can offer up as to who or what we can attribute to being the origin of what we call out gut instinct is that thing we refer to as our subconscious mind. When we get a feeling about something it is in no small part down to the workings of a part of us that hides outside of our conscious awareness. It is the creative part that solves things sideways, the emotional part that reasons with the heart and that unfathomable intelligence that effortlessly dreams the answers to our toughest and most impossible puzzles.
Your subconscious mind is the silent, benevolent angel that sits on your shoulder pointing the way and suggesting the most improbable solutions to life’s problems whilst feeling no need to explain itself to any greater degree than simply saying ‘this feels right’

However, is this awesomely powerful part of your mind to be trusted?

Everything your subconscious decides will ultimately manifest as your opinion, direction, or belief, so it might be worthwhile taking a look at those beliefs. What if some of them are wrong? What if the concepts and ideas your subconscious holds as true are in fact out of date, inappropriate or just plain silly? We don’t want to take our cream crackers all the way to the moon only to then find out it isn’t actually made of cheese.
Unfortunately all too often this is exactly what we do.

What if our gut feeling about our current relationship is to stay and try to make it good, even though it clearly isn’t working, and we are becoming more and more unhappy? We might tell ourselves it is the right thing to do, and something just tells us we should keep trying. However, maybe we feel this way because our subconscious mind learnt very early on (when we were young and helpless to survive on our own) that we need to be loved by someone…anyone…to survive. Choose someone nice, of course, but don’t whatever you do allow yourself to end up alone for even a moment! What if we are working SO hard to make this particular terrible relationship work because being on our own simply isn’t an option for us? Are we simply responding to an old childhood fear?
Or what if we stick with that safe 9 to 5 job, not because it is the best thing for us, but because we were taught by our parents that the most important thing in life is to have a safe and steady pay check? What if we live an unfulfilling life of unhappiness and drudgery just because our gut was telling us that to shoot for the stars is just too dangerous?

Following your gut instinct is all well and good, but what if your gut is working to keep you alive rather than help you actually LIVE?

The good news is that your mind’s ultimate goal isn’t simply to keep you alive and no more. It isn’t purely focussed on safety. It actually wants to find the best strategy for the most happiness. The problem is that safety is a BIG part of happiness and your mind will set up certain barriers to keep you away from harm.

Your job is to temper your gut instinct with your hard earned knowledge that has taken you a whole lifetime to build up. Don’t allow your subconscious to purely keep you safe. Your subconscious loves the shiny things, it loves to shoot for the stars, it just has to feel good about it. You can help your subconscious feel GREAT about it by letting it know that certain fears only applied when we were young and didn’t know any better. The fears and concerns of the child don’t have to apply to the adult.
Your desire to never be alone came from how things HAD to be when you were too young to look after yourself. You now know how to take care of yourself.
Your tendency to play it safe in your career isn’t YOUR fear. It was your dad’s. You don’t need to carry his fears for him. You can be your own person and you can learn to fly rather than hide.

Your mind regularly makes mistakes. When we get locked in those mistakes we end up thinking and behaving in ways that just don't make logical sense. This is how we end up holding ourselves back, and often www do it in the name of what ‘feels right’. Don’t make the mistake of letting the frightened child make your life choices.

Yes, use your gut to advise, but always remember those gut instincts might be based on things you know no longer apply to the awesome version of you that you are now.

Always remember the words of William Shedd:
 “A ship is safe in harbour, but that is not what ships are for”.

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